Men don’t understand flirting. This is true for all men as far as I can tell. They think its foreplay. They don’t understand that the two are separate and treated separately, each can actually have its own charm.
Women like to flirt and if men actually cottoned on to this idea, they might get a lot of an additional pleasure in their life that has up until now been missing.
Flirting has a lot of advantages for many different reasons. The most of which is it has a wonderful effect on the increase in mojo. This is the primary reason for flirting. It’s so you can go home and think “Yeah – I’m hot – look what happened to me tonight.”
However, men confuse flirting with foreplay all the time. If a woman looks in their direction, then down at the floor, then back in their direction with a half smile, they think they’re going to get laid. An d then when they rush over at the speed of light and say “your place or mine” and she looks back at him horrified, they accuse her of being a prick tease and will often abuse her publicly for making a fool of them.
All they need to understand is that the “look” does not necessarily mean she wants to have sex with you. The look is not even in the same ball park. In fact, the best thing about the look is that if some other guy starts sitting with her, buying her drinks and putting in the hard yards, your looks don’t necessarily have to end till she leaves the premises wit the guy.
The look is subtle. It’s designed to make you feel good, to give you a bit of a thrill. It’s about feeling good about yourself and remembering that you are an attractive man and that you really do have it going on.
If men calm down and don’t feel that they are “in with a chance” just because she’s flirting, then there is more of a chance that they will get more flirting.
The other advantage of flirting is that it does not mean you are chatting and it does not mean you have done anything wrong. You don’t have to feel guilty and you don’t have to report back. And the best thing of all is that the girl that is flirting with you does not expect you to leave your current girlfriend and run away.
In romance novels the hero does not flirt with other women at all. He is obsessively besotted with his woman and no one else comes close. She does not flirt at all, because she is so deliriously happy that she can’t even look sideways. No one compares to each other. Women like to take a look at this world and then if they don’t have it in their own life, then they like t have a little go at a flirt some time when they feel very safe.
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